It seems that the structure and values of life as we know it have changed in such a drastic way that even dating has become demoralizing.
If you have the misfortune of being a single woman over 40 in today's society, then you know exactly where I'm coming from. I think I just saw a few hands go up.
As women who found ourselves single with young children, we may have put dating on hold until our children were older, with the feeling that there would be enough time. We also held on to the belief that men would be of the same "heart" when we decided to rejoin the dating scene. Well let's just say we were in for a rude awakening.
There are so many of us who do not enjoy going to a bar and have opted, instead, for online dating as we try to persuade ourselves, despite all the unfavorable things we've heard, that "after all, it can't be that bad." Plus, we've heard of many stories with happy endings.
I hate to be the one to concede, but it seems that the Internet is filled with a bunch of grown men over 50 who are trying to reclaim their youth by looking to date girls half their age or playing head games with others. This is not to imply that all men on these dating sites are philanderers, however, some of the biggest offenders are married men posing as divorced or separated men, and others who are just plain uninhibited "players." These men will equip their vehicles with GPS systems in order to travel the distances necessary to pounce upon their current prey.
My advice is: If you find yourself having to use these sites, please listen to your intuition. If something does not feel right, question it. If your questions annoy or make your date uncomfortable, then more than likely that person has a hidden agenda.
This is only my take from a woman's perspective. I'm sure there are men out there who could identify and say that there are women who play the same game.
So in the meantime, ladies, let's keep hope alive by believing that somewhere out there our Mr. Right exists but keep in mind that no one is perfect. We should not become desperate or discouraged because of our age, but instead become educated to the nature of the game.
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